Invitation Wording: Wedding Invitations
by Emily Post
The invitation to the ceremony is engraved on the front sheet of white
note-paper. The smartest, at present, is that with a raised margin—or
plate mark. At the top of the sheet the crest (if the family of the bride
has the right to use one) is embossed without color. Otherwise the
invitation bears no device. The engraving may be in script, block, shaded
block, or old English. The invitation to the ceremony should always request "the honour" of your "presence," and never the "pleasure" of your
"company." (Honour is spelled in the old-fashioned way, with a "u" instead
Enclosed in Two Envelopes
Two envelopes are never used except for wedding invitations or
announcements; but wedding invitations and all accompanying cards are
always enclosed first in an inner envelope that has no mucilage on the
flap, and is superscribed "Mr. and Mrs. Jameson Greatlake," without
address. This is enclosed in an outer envelope which is sealed and
Mr. and Mrs. Jameson Greatlake,
24 Michigan Avenue,
To those who are only "asked to the church" no house invitation is
A wedding is not only a big deal for the bride and groom, but the attendees also need do to some preparation. Therefore, a wedding invitation should be sent out at least six weeks in advance. This gives the guests time to plan their attire, buy a gift, and book travel arrangements, if necessary.
The parents of the bride usually pay for the wedding, and the invitations will come from that part of the family. They will “desire” the attendance of their guests, and they will inform them of the date, time, and a brief word about attire. It could be casual, semi-formal, or formal, which is also sometimes called Black Tie.
The who, what, where and when are also important. If the guest is single, the invitation might include the option of bringing another guest along, whether it is a date or a friend. The wedding invitation should include the address of the church or other facility in which the wedding is to take place, and directions should always be included, even if it is local.
Often, wedding invitations are in two parts. They may include the reception invitation separately, or they may be all in one, if all the guests are invited to both events. Directions should be included for he reception, as well, whether it is going to take place in a hall, at a restaurant, or at someone’s home.
And since it is important to have a head count, as far as how many will be present for appetizers, dinner, and cocktails, it is important to include in the invitation an RSVP phone number, so that the guests can let the bride’s family know if they will be coming.
Special thanks to Emily Post on her wonderful tips on etiquette and invites.